The overarching style of our relationship... what we as a couple, are, first and foremost is a Female-led relationship. She is my Mistress, I am her pet. She tells me to jump and I do, then take it one step further and levitate in the air until she tells me to land. I'm at her beck and call... I wait on her hand and foot. If she wants something, she gets it and I give it to her. Not just sexually... she wears the pants in every aspect of our relationship. To outsiders I appear to be the epitome of "pussy-whipped," which I am... but that's not what we are (a tame/vanilla female-led relationship) we are definitely Mistress and Slave.
Sexually, she's the top... she directs what our play will entail, where we will do it, when we will do it (which is usually "often"), how long it will last, and when/where/how/if I get to come. She almost always has the more active/assertive role (like, she's the giver/pitcher and I'm the receiver/catcher) and if she doesn't (like I'm giving her oral) she controls/directs/commands/demands my actions. Which is great... I've got no complaints... she's an excellent director. It's never boring / stale... there's usually lots of variety and she throws things at me I've never thought of/heard of/seen before, but even the activities we always do or at least do often (like pegging) aren't boring. Even the more vanilla activities like kissing and cuddling is exciting (this is big for someone who wants to an hero in vanilla relationships)... but she has a tendency to make those kinky, adding in pinches, bites (not just little nibbles), grabs/pulls/twists, and the like. Yeah... our sex life is always entertaining and I have a feeling will be 'til the day I die.
But we're more than just a bedroom BDSM couple / weekend warriors... Everything I do is because she told me to do it or if I've finished my tasks, as a way to surprise her with something she will love. For instance, I take care of housework, the pets, errands, etc. Which also leaves little time for full-time employment... while she works I take care of like... "house-wife" type stuff... but I also am self employed as a computer-repair technician. It's not really an "official" business - I don't have a storefront or anything... which allows her to set the hours I work and if I accept customers or not. Plus all revenue is profit so I don't have to work grueling hours to make some decent extra-income.
As such... all major household/financial decisions are made by her. If this were the 1950's, she'd have to dress as a man and be considered the "husband" and I'd have to dress as a woman. That is, essentially, how our relationship works. I obey/serve her completely. Now, that's not to say she doesn't take me or my wants/needs into account at all. She cares about me deeply and this is also a loving relationship... not just harsh Mistress/Slave like a slave back in the day... She takes into consideration what I want though she rarely asks she always knows. If she does ask, it is of course with the fact in mind that she obviously has the final say / ultimately the decision is hers. A petty, passing whim that she wants now but tomorrow may not is more important than something I desperately need, in my opinion, if it makes her happy. It's just what works for us.
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